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Every now and then a girl finds herself in the position of feeling a little bit lonely - whether it's because you've moved halfway around the world or simply started a new job. But there's no need to despair: finding a good friend is not unlike finding a good boyfriend. It takes time, a bit of trial and error, and you rarely know who the best ones are going to be at the very beginning - but going through the process can make your life a lot richer. Here are our top five tips for meeting new friends, whether you've lived in the same place your whole life or have just moved to the other side of the globe.
Get out of the house If you want to make awesome new friends, it stands to reason that you increase your chances if you meet as many people as possible. Yes, it's tempting when you're living in a new place to stay at home with your box sets, but make yourself get out there - we promise, no one will look at you funny if you turn up to events on your own (if anything, they'll be a bit jealous of how cool and brave you are). Scour Time Out and other local listings for cool events and signing up to groups on MeetUp.com.
 
But be somewhat selective You don't want to be friends with just anyone - in other words, you don't want to make friends with people you have nothing in common with just so you have someone to have a drink with on a Friday night (think: those people who you met at Fresher's Week in uni and haven't spoken to since). You want to be friends with people you actually like. It's not dissimilar to dating: spread your net wide, but don't make too many commitments until you really get to know each other. So: your new friend invites you a dinner party - great; your new friend invites you to go halves on a mortgage with her - hold back on that one.
 
Find out what you love, and pursue it Think about who your closest friends have been up until now: they're likely to people you met through some activity or other: clubs and societies at uni, youth groups, sports teams, co-workers, and so on. Pursue the things you're passionate about, and you'll meet others who share your passion.
 
Make the first move You meet someone you like? Ask them to hang out with you. It's a little scary at first, but most people are flattered and happy to make a new friend. If they're not flattered and happy? Well, they don't sound like much fun - so you probably don't want to be friends with them anyway.
 
Be the organiser We're not just talking about coffees and club nights. Attending events that interest you is cool - organising them brings 50 times the benefits, as people who love them will want to approach and talk to you, suggest working together, or invite you to other events where you'll meet other great people. You'll be spoiled for choice!
 
A version of this post was originally published on Rachel's personal blog

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